Things are to Clock, People are to Compass
What doesn’t fit in this to-do list?
- Review for test
- take test
- head to practice
- end it with Melanie
Obviously, the last one. And why? As we discussed in our lesson, the last one deals with a person! People are different. They don’t belong in a to-do list – more specifically, it’s the relationships we have that don’t fit very appropriately in a list of tasks.
Our daily to-do lists deal with tasks, time, the management of that time, efficiency.
Our daily relationships with the people we care about, especially the ones you’ve listed – your mother and father, siblings, other family members, close friendships – go beyond fitting into the mold of a task. In tonight’s hypothetical illustration of someone breaking off a relationship – first via the phone, by somewhat of a surprise (small talk to bomb drop) and charting out about 15 to 20 minutes to have the never-easy conversation – we discussed that meaningful, deep conversations dealing with the heart are beyond a task. Tasks? We list them and think, “what is the most efficient way to go about these?”
But with relationships, we should ask, “what is the most effective way to go about this relationship.”
See? Efficiency versus effectiveness. People are different.
So where do we see this in scripture where we are commanded to honor our meaningful relationships? One is in Ephesians 6:1-4. Children are instructed by Paul to obey their parents (obedience = honoring). Children are called to obey their parents, even when they might feel they are being challenging or unfair and parents honor their children through giving wisdom and guidance (from their experiences and wisdom).
In Numbers, we looked at a simple thing such as a compliment goes a long way. Moses, leading the organized march of Israel into Canaan, he pumped up Hobab; he told him that if he went with them, Hobab would be their eyes as they traveled in the desert (it seems Hobab was a kind of survivor man). Sure Moses wanted Hobab’s skills to be on their team as they headed into the Promised Land, but he made him feel valued! He said “you can be our eyes.”
So, how do you show appreciation to those people, those closest relationships? How do you communicate to those people in your life that you value them?
If you think anything like me, you compare the ratio of crossed-off and non-crossed-off tasks in your list and gauge your efficiency with each glance of the clock.
What about your compass, always pointing to what’s really important to you – especially those relationships in your life? Do you look at some right now as if they were on your list?
Think outside of your current relationships. Why is it SO IMPORTANT that Christians REALLY understand this concept?